John Mason

wrote a powerful book titled, “The Enemy Called Average”. You can easily imagine the content of that book. The fact is that it is easy to remain average all of life until the day of death. However, there is no Creator worth his salt that creates people so that they are just there or so that they are just average!

For people to realize the fullness of their glory as the creator intended, we will have to go through a process of self-birthing. There are several reasons behind that, the greatest of which is that self-birthing creates ownership of the person that we become.

The Sin of Conformism

Growing up, we are nurtured to fit into a particular template in life in society. This has become so subtle that you would not notice that you are being disciplined to fit in and conform. The nurturing that we go through is unfortunately never enough to usher us into our greatest potential. Self-birthing is therefore required at all levels.

The process through which the human faces himself and comes to terms with who they are, what their responsibility on earth is and what they need to do in order to accomplish it is what I am calling self-birthing. Of necessity, self-birthing is not a fun thing to do. Naturally, birthing has a connotation of pain, transition, and apprehension.

A Change Must Occur

We celebrate the fruits of any birth because we are celebrating newness, promise, potential, and fruitfulness. However, soon enough, we do not recognize the uniqueness of such a one. We quickly start to mold them after some existing structure, culture or template.

Unless the single soul snaps out of the “life assembly process” and orchestrates a process of self-birthing, they will end up living a conformist, average life that consists of “making it in life”. Making it in life is such an average phrase because the goal is to look for comfort, security, and coziness. However, that is not the goal of life. The goal of life is to contribute, impact, influence and make this world a better place. That only is brought forth through the process of self-birthing.

Guideposts to Self-Birthing

There are some critical things that cause the initiation and fuel the process of self-birthing. Those are universal. We have already discussed them in this article.

Further, we have already seen two ways in which one can practically perform self-birthing:

1. Doing the Uncomfortable:

The greatest problem we have with humanity is the maintenance of status-quo. This spells comfort and coziness and protection of already conquered small turfs. However, self-birthing is of necessity uncomfortable. The more we are comfortable with being uncomfortable, the more we are successfully self-birthing

2. Doing the Unconventional:

What is known is knowledge. It is not experience. What brings about the knowledge and what is faced practically is what will cause us to experience self-birthing. The know, tried, proved and tested, the normal way of doing things will not help us in self-birthing. It is going against the grain and doing the unconventional that delivers us.

3. Daring

Hellen Keller said:

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure”

If we keep doing what we have always done, then we will get what we have always had. To dare is a rare thing. There are two ways in which we can dare. First, it is when we decide an impossible attempt. Roosevelt said,

“Far much better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the great twilight that neither knows victory nor defeat”

The other way to do a dare is when life introduces you to one. In other words, you have no option because the circumstances around you have changed. In a normal setting, I would never ride a bicycle for 50 Kms. During the lockdown in Kampala in 2020 due to the Corona Virus Pandemic, I did the dare.  I must say that I saw my limits. It was a self-birthing process of sorts. That is why Bob Marley said,

“Sometimes you do not know how tough you are until being tough is the only option you have left”

To do a dare in whichever way it presents itself, there are very many benefits in the self-birthing process.

1. Helps to Conquer Self-doubt

Ability at times is not about your size and your capacity, it is about your mental fortitude. Self-doubt has robbed very many capable people. They normally say that it is not the size of the dog in the fight that matters, it is the size of the fight in the dog that counts.

When you do a dare, self-doubt is acutely nipped in the bud. As a matter of fact, the most direct way to deal with self-doubt is to dare and do the very thing that you doubt you couldn’t. Right then and there, you have already initiated self-birthing.

2. It Introduces You To Your Hidden Self

Coal, gold, diamonds and precious stones are not found on the surface. You dig deep to unearth them. The same applies to your inner powers. You have no idea what you are capable of until you dare to do something mighty. That’s when you come to terms with what you had no idea you were capable of. How about that for self-birthing?

3. It Stretches Your Limits

Limits. Blockades. They can be in existence in your life for decades. These are the very things that are a hindrance to your process of self-birthing. When you dare to do mighty things such as no one in your family has never done before, you start stretching your limits.

You will never discover who you really are until you go to where your limits area and push them further. To see your limits you have to dare.

4. It Helps to Conquer Fear

Fear can be paralyzing and debilitating. There is no self-birthing if fear has paralyzed us. When we dare to do mighty things and win glorious triumphs, we hit a telling blow on fear in our lives. Fear will always knock on our doors, but if we dare to answer that door by faith, we find that fear was not there. If it was, it is weakened and cannot limit us anymore.

5. It Helps us to Conquer New Frontiers

I always wanted to be an author. However, for the life of me, I thought it was insurmountable a feat. I did not ever think that it was a possibility. Then I dared. I started. I can tell you that before I was through with that book, not only did I see the possibility of others, but I already had new titles as well as content for other books. Through that process of a dare, I had gone through a self-birthing process that not only created an author, but a ghost-writer that has helped over 20 authors to write their books.

6. I Helps us to grow

Personal growth and development is always hastened through a dare. The same thing applies to organizations. If you wanted the process of self-birthing to be hastened, you need to dare do a mighty thing. Something that scares you but also excites you at the same time.