We all are susceptible to disillusionment. Whether we are smack in the middle of our purpose pursuit or we are far away from it, there will come a time that we will feel disillusioned by life one way or another. I am focusing on how we can handle disillusionment in purpose pursuit.
In the year 2022, I started feeling unease with my purpose pursuit. Not that I was ready to quit and do other things. There is nothing else that I think I can give my dedication and time as I have with this purpose pursuit. I was beginning to feel the throes of disillusionment circling in on me.
Whereas I had done pretty well as far as being consistent with my life is concerned, I began to feel like there has got to be more rewards with my pursuit than what I am experiencing at the moment. When I started meditating and seriously thinking about it, I saw a pattern.
When we start feeling disillusionment coming into our lives, the following could be the reasons. ‘Could’ is the keyword here.
Elsewhere I have written that one of the biggest distractions in our purpose pursuit is impatience. Disillusionment in life is strongly connected to impatience. One comes before the other. First, you become impatient and in quick succession, disillusionment follows.
Impatience is part of life. At times, when we have reached a maturity point and are still not able to enjoy that which we expected, it is Ok to be impatient. However, we are talking about being impatient even before you can reach maturity.
Many people abort their mission and purpose on earth chiefly because they are impatient. You will have to realize one thing: Purpose pursuit is not going to guarantee you immediate recompense. For some reason, purpose is a selfless venture full of uncertainties. If you go there looking for a quick buck, you will face disillusionment sooner than later.
“Purpose pursuit is not going to guarantee you immediate recompense. For some reason, purpose is a selfless venture full of uncertainties. If you go there looking for a quick buck, you will face disillusionment sooner than later.”— Lawrence Namale
As much as impatience is a valid feeling we have when we are doing life, there are several reasons why we would feel impatient with our purpose pursuits.
Generally speaking, your purpose is for others. We cannot call it purpose if all it does is benefit you. You and I will realize soon enough that we are the last ones to eat from our purpose. Simon Sinek wrote an incredible book titled, “Leaders Eat Last”. You get the point.
Disillusionment comes when we reverse that and we write another book, “Leaders Eat First”. You will realize that this kind of selfishness seldom gets rewarded faster than we expected from our purpose pursuit.
When you are pursuing your purpose, it is important to have some expectations. We create products and services that can help us to have an interface with the people that we serve. We create a brand that is sharp enough to draw their attention. These processes do take time to get trust.
If you have not done this, you will not expect things to happen at any point in time. You will probably be running your purpose just on auto-pilot, by default and not design. The more you operate this way, the more you are a candidate of impatience which leads to disillusionment.
“We get impatient at times because we have not fully planned our lives out well. This then leads to disillusionment.”— Lawrence Namale
To counter this, you and I must be consummate planners, dry running our pursuits and seeing what comes up next. We get impatient at times because we have not fully planned our lives out well. This then leads to disillusionment.
Purpose pursuit is not like a job, even though a job might be part of purpose pursuit. With a job, the maturity date of payments is always not more than thirty days. With purpose pursuit, the gestation period is at least a decade.
If you don’t have this understanding, you will be impatient real soon. Probably in three or so years, you will start feeling the vibe of disillusionment coming in you, feeling like you are doing the wrong thing. You could be wrong. You could be on the right track but just needs a little bit of patience.
It is so difficult to find someone disillusioned who is daring. A daring person engages what they feel to be an impossibility for them. This could be part of the purpose pursuit. Living your life on the low and average can be boring enough to invite impatience because there is nothing exciting going on.
That’s how disillusionment sets in.
If so far the above reasons do not speak to you about why you are facing disillusionment, let’s see what the next article can bring us.