One curious Lieutenant asked his boss later on, “Sir, what was on the other side of the door marked, “Unknown horrors”? The captain stared in the distance and replied, “Freedom”. You see, for the most part, what we have as “fear of change” is normally illusion. It never is as bad as we thought it would. This illusion makes us enslaved to the status quo because we would rather maintain our lives with that which we know and are comfortable with.
Let’s face it. Change comes with the immediate feeling of discomfort because you are operating way beyond your comfort zone. We have to be realistic and come to terms with the “miseries” that are accompanying change. Someone said that to be forewarned is to be forearmed. I agree. The reason why we need to know some of these perils of change is so that we can be able to fully prepare ourselves and psychologically make a shift of acceptance. Last year my son was sick and had to be injected. Instead of telling him “everything will be OK”, I explained to him that the doctor will prick him with an injection and it will be a bit painful. He expected the pain and actually did well. He did not scream out in horror. I had prepared him for “change” by giving him the brutal facts.
As already mentioned earlier, change might not necessarily bring the object of your desires, at least immediately. The disappointment at times is connected to your shift from comfort to discomfort. You get into a business venture that immediately starts hemorrhaging your finances. That’s a disappointment. You made the change but the change is not paying you back immediately. That is something that we need to come to terms with. Change will not always give you dividends immediately. As a matter of fact, you might have to go through some disappointment before you can smile.
This goes without saying. But then again, not all changes come with discomfort. Some changes do actually come with greater benefits than the status quo. Even then, those changes were as a result of a change that was uncomfortable. You save (some discomfort) instead of spending (some comfort) so you can be able to either buy a house or build one. The discomfort is something that we need to embrace in the long term view of what benefits we accrue through the change we took. Frankly, where there is no discomfort with change, there usually is no growth.
The very fact that you are venturing into the unknown causes you to be uncomfortable in your own skin. In fact, people seldom want to stay in situations were they are uncomfortable in their own essence. Change can create serious self scrutiny that can lead to self doubt, and you start telling yourself that you are not good enough. It is important for you to understand that you are inadequate in something so you can go out there and do something about it. What would you take between staying comfortable or venturing in a realm of self doubt temporarily so you can grow? You answer is as good as mine.
We shall carry on with these thoughts in the next article.