I will be straight to the point. I need to debunk something that I have advocated for years. There is this saying and advice that I have championed for a while:
“In the Kingdom of God, timing is everything!”
That truth is not just critical in the “Kingdom of God”, but for illustration, it is critical in many sectors of life:
You get my point. In fact, this wisest (and riches—it seems that riches almost always follows riches) said the following:
There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:
A right time for birth and another for death, A right time to plant and another to reap,
A right time to kill and another to heal, A right time to destroy and another to construct,
A right time to cry and another to laugh, A right time to lament and another to cheer,
A right time to make love and another to abstain, A right time to embrace and another to part,
A right time to search and another to count your losses, A right time to hold on and another to let go,
A right time to rip out and another to mend, A right time to shut up and another to speak up,
A right time to love and another to hate, A right time to wage war and another to make peace.
But in the end, does it really make a difference what anyone does?
I’ve had a good look at what God has given us to do–busywork, mostly.
True, God made everything beautiful in itself and in its time–but he’s left us in the dark, so we can never know what God is up to, whether he’s coming or going.
I’ve decided that there’s nothing better to do than go ahead and have a good time and get the most we can out of life
Interesting perspective of life, right? Some people call this Book a sarcastic book, but I can tell you this guy was onto something.
But let me say this: If you will subscribe in total to the reasoning that everything must be done at on “opportune time”, then there is one thing that you are risking. You are risking “waiting” at the expense of preparedness. Let me derive it further for us.
As much as there is an opportune time to do something strategic, it does not mean that we can have blank calendars up until “the right timing” comes for us to do something. There is an interval between now and that opportune time. That interval is called…well, “Life”.
Ever heard this saying?
“Do not count your chicks before they hatch?”
I am sure you have. What those guys who came up with that saying failed to do is to instruct people to keep on living as you wait for the chicks to hatch. In fact, others really nailed it when they said,
“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”
…but I have questioned that saying here previously.
My point is simple. The most crucial thing in life is preparedness. Let me tell you something that is mind boggling…and for me to do that, I have to go full spiritual and scriptural again. Those of you who do not cherish spirituality (everything is spiritual by the way…that’s why you guys keep talking about “chemistry between so and so…”, but I digress) it is your chance to log off here…but you will be missing quite a bit. OK here goes:
“For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect towards him”
2 Chronicles 16:9
OK, Imagine with me for a minute: God “googling” the whole earth to find someone…”whose heart is steadfast, or perfect” towards him. Now before you can go in full super-spiritual mode, let me explain my understanding. God is “Looking” for people whose hearts are steadfast. Whose hearts are perfect. Whose hearts are pure…towards him. What do you think these kind of people are?
The fact is that you will never be ready to be a parent, so you cannot over wait
The fact is that you can never be fully prepared to be a spouse…now matter how perfect you want to be for your mate. So quit those 6 -10 years dating periods. They are a joke!
The fact is that you can never be ready to go for that jog. There are millions of excuses that will stop you.
The fact is that you will never have enough money to save…there are financial pressues (including your self-indulgence ego) that will make you not save
The fact is that there will never be a perfect time to say you are sorry
There will never be a perfect time to make the difficult phone call, or cold call or cold email.
There will never be a perfect time to break of that emotion sapping, time consuming, and difficult relationship.
There will never be a perfect time to get out of your mother’s house. Ouch.
There will never be a perfect time to accept a setback and adjust accordingly
There will never be a perfect time to make a step forward to improve your life.
I am sure by now you get the point
The only perfect time is now.
That is why you have to be crazy enough to call her now and propose…
That is why you have to be crazy enough to break off that relationship now…believe me I am talking from experience, you will be fine.
That is why you have to be crazy enough now and see the audience of the CEO who never knew you existed
That is why you have to be crazy enough to push through now that idea of yours that makes no sense to your friends
That is why you have to be as crazy enough to get of that couch now and plan your week, go for a jog, clean up, shave, shower…the list is endless.
Now is the perfect time folks, for the following simple reasons:
When you go out now
You will be termed as “Crazy” but that is OK because…
This is more credible than what any professor can tell you. The lessons you will learn will be incredible. For those of you who are afraid of a NO let me give you some advice. You would rather know that NO right NOW than wait and wish and still get the NO later after waiting and wishing while wasting time and emotion. Get on the knee now. OK..this article is not about proposing…so let me stop referring to it if I can help it…but I need a better example
The best person to compete against is yourself. You will thank and even kiss yourself for being as crazy as now. I think you will get to know what you are really made of when you get out of your way, crazy enough and do it now. You will find the extent of your fears…and you will even find how unfounded they were in the first place. The true you will challenge the fake you that you have been peddling around for long…Ooops.
Believe me, taking a risk is a scary thing. But you know what, you get acquainted with your fear and before you know it, someone has to push a much greater risk your way in order to scare you. Guess what? You have just grown!!
If you want to wait for a burning bush experience in order to know your purpose, then you must be aware that there are some Egyptians colonizing some Hebrews…but you and I know that is not the case. So action is the closest “trial and error” method to get closer to your purpose. You do this through instinct, as I have shared earlier. Nothing is as potent as this crazy action to show you were your purpose in life is.
Believe me, you have to be as crazy as now in order to grow, mature and conquer. What have you been postponing? Get off it now! Get crazy. Call her and propose. Blame me later!